Tuesday, May 22, 2007

i would love to blog about something..but i really dunno what to say. i would still prefer to keep certain things to myself..i know i always encourage people to say whatever is on their minds. i don't practice what i preach. and i find it really hard to say whatever's on my mind too..cos after all, it's my own problems and others shouldn't be troubled by it. and also, i think my problems are insignificant compared to problems i could have potentially faced. i can still bear with it and work it out for the time being..if one day i couldn't, i would surely say it to whoever is willing to listen.

anyway, zh asked me what are the 10 reasons a girl falls for a guy. hrm..haha, i gave him 10 reasons. i think the reasons i gave weren't the best reasons in the world. but hey! 10 is rather limited. here were the reasons i gave in no specific order (it's gathered from most girls):

1. the guy has done something sweet for the girl
2. he has the looks the girl is looking in a guy
3. he has a sense of humour
4. sense of security
5. can get along well..can talk about anything
6. good character
7. intelligence
8. romantic
9. just one look at him and your heart races..and that's how u fall for that guy
10. u don't miss him when he's around, but when he's not around, u realize how much u miss him

he pointed out that it seems like i haven't been in love before cos i've missed lots of vital points in a relationship..such as feelings for each other and if the guy likes the girl too. yeah, i haven't been in love before and i agree that feelings for each other is important in a relationship. not only that, i think trust and respect are even more important.

but from what i see, the question here is why a girl would fall for a guy. so it wasn't asking what's important in a relationship right? cos sometimes a girl would fall for a guy without expecting the guy to like her too. that's how it works, isn't it? it's not possible to have your feelings reciprocated all the time, if not there won't be such a term as one-sided love.

we are human with feelings and it's hard to control. if you control your feelings, you won't feel happy either. if you don't and your feelings aren't being reciprocated, you won't feel happy too. seems like there's no win-win situation here..but that's just how relationships work, isn't it? it can't be perfect every time.

those 10 reasons are the most common reasons a girl would fall for a guy i guess. but at the end of the day, the guy u fell for might not be the guy with all the qualities you hope to look for in a guy. or you don't even know why you fell for that guy in the first place. when cupid's arrow strikes you, you can't escape or even fathom why you did that in the first place. but you can't take back your feelings. you can only hope that it will fade away with time..it's not meant to be.

humans are too complicated for me to understand..every individual thinks differently and has different perspective. that's why i think it's amazing that two different individuals can come together and get along well and get married in the end and live together for the rest of their lives. there's surely lots of compromise, give and takes and sacrifices from both parties. but sometimes, we aren't willing to do that in a relationship..that's why it fails in the end. is it possible to be totally selfless in a relationship and think in terms of 'we' instead of 'i'?

heh, that's a rather long post and i thought i didn't have anything to blog about!! =P but as usual, such issue won't have a conclusion to it since everyone is still trying to define it and get a perspective on it. if not, there won't be so many books, talk shows etc on this issue. it's hard to get to the specifics cos 一种米养百种人。don't think it's possible to list everything out..sigh, 问世间情为何物???

travelled around the world at 11:10 AM